15 Point Checklist for Attracting your Soulmate
If you’d like to attract a partner who is the epitome of Chris Hemsworth’s body, plays the piano like Chopin, has the charm of Hugh Jackman and jumps the net like Roger Federer, you may want to consider a few things on this list.
Actually this is much more than a checklist. It’s a blueprint for a really great relationship. One that has been calling you for many years, because every relationship you’ve experienced up until now has been subtly (and not so gently), moving you towards the man of your dreams. Your whole life has been about clarifying to attract Mr Right. You didn’t realize? You’re not alone.
Some of these questions may be difficult to answer and that’s probably because the relationship role models you had in the past, were ones that maybe bordered on toxic, at least, they weren’t very balanced.
I didn’t think about relationships at all when I entered one. But when I look back, my patterns came from my parents and so did my role models, which would have been great if they had a loving, respectful relationship. But they didn’t and I took all those expectations with me. I then expected somebody with another set of role models and parameters to fit my mold. It was more a recipe for disaster than attracting my Soulmate.
Relationship Role Models
So now is an excellent time to get yourself a new relationship role model. This means, a relationship you know of, that you can borrow some new habit patterns and attitudes from. We have role models for many things in life. These people don’t need to be perfect but they do need to set an example of the life we’d like to adopt in that area of their lives. For instance, you may like the Kardashians for their fashion sense, but as far as relationships go, they aren’t great role models in that area. So think about the relationships you admire, the couples you have respect for, whether you know them or not and use them as your benchmark for a new relationship.
Imagine this process as a written visualization. It’s scientifically proven that if you don’t define what you don’t want and if you also don’t define what you do want, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns. This means you’ll keep attracting the same guys. So come for a ride with me. I promise it’ll be worth it.
Checklist for your Soulmate
Or download the PDF here. Checklist for Finding a Soulmate
Get yourself some paper and a pen. (You might need a few pages.)
- What attributes don’t you want in a partner? What’s a deal breaker? These attributes would be a culmination of everything you hated about past relationships. The habits, the behaviors, the traits. Write them all down. (Now you know why you might need a few pages.)
- How did they make you feel? Of course, in the good times you felt great. Everyone does. But what about the majority of the time?
- What triggered the bad times? Was it drinking, mood, insecurity, not trying hard enough.
- What were past issues? (The elephant in the room.) What was there that you just didn’t talk about?
- How did they feel about your family? Did they like your mother? Were they offended at family gatherings? Did they make you feel ostracized?
- Any other issues that have arisen. Write them here.
Take a new sheet of paper and a deep breath and now imagine what you do want.
- What type of partner would you prefer? If you haven’t thought about this before, I’ll give you a hint. It’s the opposite of question 1. So write them down and notice what you’ve written. This is what you actually want.
- Let’s delve into the specifics. What type of looks, how tall, what type of personality, smile, manners, clothing.
- What’s the work that he does to make a living? Does he contribute to the community.
- Does he believe in you and is he supportive of you, your career and your beliefs?
- What’s his philosophy on life? Is that important to you?
- How does he feel about family?
- What are his hang ups? We all have them, so better off to find out now. Imagine what they are and what you are prepared to handle.
- Do you enjoy spending time together? How much time? Do you have hobbies together, work together or are just friends?
- How do you feel when you’re together?
When we don’t actually clarify and define what we want, we tend to fall back on default patterns. This is not what we want here.
The reason for defining, is to create a new vision of the person we want in our lives. They may not look exactly as we imagine in the blueprint above but we will feel the way we said we would in the very last question.
Let me know your aha’s
I would love to hear the answers to some of these or any questions that you have, so please let me know. I read them all. Email me here at my personal email Gayle Maree or just hit reply.
I hope you gained some insights into who is your ideal Soulmate. Now place the answers to questions 7-15 in a place where you can see them often, to remind you of what you’re moving towards.
Yes, knowing is just the first step, but it is a step, so congratulations!
Spiritual Counselor, www.GayleMaree.com
Download the PDF here. Checklist for Mr Right
Gayle Maree has been transforming relationships for over 20 years. She has an intuitive power for dissolving past pain and has helped many people free themselves of debilitating past patterns. Her key courses are Leveraging Spirit™ and 6 Dimensions of Healing Mastermind.
Gayle Maree is a Spiritual Counselor, Mother, Entrepreneur and Eternal Optimist. She is also author of 6 Dimensions of Healing®.