Happiness is the Path to Successful Relationships
Relationships don’t create Happiness
But happiness is the path to successful relationships.
The only reason you strive for anything in life is that you think you’re going to feel good when you be, do or have it. Yet that’s not even possible, because if you aren’t happy on the way, you won’t be happy when you get there.
Hi I’m Gayle Maree from 6 Dimensions of Healing and today we’re talking about developing a habit of happiness to attract your spiritual soulmate.
Happiness is the path to Successful Relationships
Only happiness is the path to happiness. Not success or riches or other people.
Believe me, there are a lot of rich and so-called successful people that are very unhappy. There are many long term marriages that aren’t happy either.
I remember attending a 50th Wedding Anniversary many years ago. There were a lot of people gathered for this special occasion as it was an elderly Italian couple, with family traveling from thousands of miles just to join the celebrations. But the guests were much happier than the ‘Golden’ couple. They sat next to each other but not beside each other.
Both were both facing different directions. Not to talk to other people, but they were faced away from each other from the time they arrived. If a picture paints a thousand words, this one spoke volumes. This couple had been married for 50 years, but they clearly weren’t very happy.
How to Create Successful Relationships
Many people think that being rich or married will solve all their problems. Just wave a magic wand and poof, they’ll be happy. Yet, it doesn’t happen unless you were happy to begin with. Being with somebody doesn’t make you happy, as many toxic relationships will attest to. But even the non-toxic ones aren’t necessarily happy. So what’s that about?
They made one fundamental mistake. They thought that moving from one area of unhappiness to pursuing something else, would make things better. From feeling insecure, to finding a partner and getting married. But the bandaid was temporary. And when it was pulled off, the scab came off too. All they got was a different set of problems that caused more unhappiness.
Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places
We’re all guilty of trying to find happiness through something outside of us. Whether you really, really wanted that new dress or car or relationship, yet when it arrived it still felt empty. A new emptiness. But you’re in good company. We’ve all done that. It’s empty because you were looking to fill a gap. And that gap is an inner one. Successful relationships are created by the connection you find through happiness.
Now not everyone is looking for happiness. Because if you were an abused child for instance, your version of happiness may be about pleasing others. And that’s really difficult because people are fickle. They aren’t always happy even when you try to please them. But this is a conditional happiness and what I want you to know is that there is actually a formula for happiness and it has nothing to do with other people. Ever.
Parents with Successful Relationships
When you learn to interpret all your emotions through those closest to you, like you did as a child, you’d better hope that that your parents are balanced and happy. Otherwise they’ll teach you to look for happiness in all the wrong places. Through pleasing others. By making yourself look big, and stepping all over other people that seem weaker. Or worse still, becoming a victim.
That’s why many people equate struggle, lasting or successful relationships and becoming rich with being happy. They think a long marriage must a happy one and you’re a failure if it doesn’t last. But all these are outside patterns you learned from your parents that indicated that’s what it took to be happy. They aren’t Universal laws and they actually don’t work.
If they did, you would be happy now. And if your parents weren’t happy then they couldn’t teach you what a successful relationship was either.
Happiness is an Inner Indicator of Connection
See happiness is an inner indicator of an inner connection. Your inner guidance system, called your mood Barometer, will always indicate to you whether you’re closer to happiness or further away from it by your mood.
Not by how somebody else thinks or feels about you, because that’s none of your business, but by what your mood is and how you feel about them.
So happiness is a mood. It’s an inner emotion that’s reflected outwardly. But it’s displayed differently for everyone. Just because somebody is jumping up and down, trying to be noticed, it doesn’t mean they’re happy. When someone tells you they love you, it’s not an indicator that they’re happy. Happiness is bubbling up on the inside. Not to the point of boiling over but lots of fine champagne bubbles rising to the surface. It’s effervescent joyous laughter on the inside.
It’s not something you need to tell anybody but it is something that’s often reflected by complete strangers as they smile at you in the street. You want to feel as happy as you can as often as you can, so that you allow your spiritual soulmate into your life.
About Gayle Maree
Gayle overcame decades of limiting beliefs about relationships to live a life she had only dreamt about. She spends her time between USA and Australia (home to their 7 grown children) and conducts workshops all over the world with husband and Spiritual Soulmate of 30 years, Allan. They coach women like you, to shed their old patterns and beliefs to manifest a relationship that supports them.
People are attracted to Gayle for the high energy, intuitive insights and deep wisdom; and for the powerful transformation they gain through 6D Mood Mastery.
Are you ready to transform your life?
Her key course is 6D Mood Mastery©, and Habits of Happiness
Gayle is a Spiritual Counselor, Mother, Entrepreneur and Eternal Optimist. She is also author of 6 Dimensions of Healing©.
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